Instead of Brainstorming New Year Resolution Ideas…Do This (#Feels)
It’s that time of year again where people start to seek out new year resolution ideas.
In fact, for most people, setting one new year resolution is the default practice of goal-setting come pre-NYE.
Typically this means aiming to accomplish something tangible.
A target is met. Outcome attained. Goals achieved.
But, what if this year you took a different approach to the traditional new year resolution approach?
A more soul stirring and visceral style of setting your annual intentions and resolutions.
All it requires, is that you ask yourself this one simple question:
How would you like to feel this year?
“What if, first, we got clear on how we actually wanted to feel in our life, and then we laid out our intentions? What if your most desired feelings consciously informed how you plan your day, your year, your career, your holidays — your life?”
This method invites you to reflect on what you’re really hungry for and how you might satisfy that hunger with how you behave to what you buy.
Why it works
Feelings are how we experience life. We’re not moved to achieve goal for the sake of it. We’re chasing that “feeling” it’ll give us.
Joyful, excited, happy, comfortable, free, alive, successful, light, healthy, energised, sexy, smart, delighted, playful, carefree, connected…these are some of the many positive feelings we should actively and consciously build our days and life around.
Something as critical to your enjoyment of life as your sensory experience of the world shouldn’t be left to chance.
That’s not to say that traditional goal-setting, aka SMART goals (specific, measurable, achievable, results-focused, time-bound) can’t be helpful. In fact, when it comes to tracking outcomes, they’re 100% useful. The problem is, they’re not known to light you up.
Exhibit A: “Lose 5kgs by end of Dec 2018” – not exactly inspiring, right?
While, if you took a moment to think about why you might like to lose 5kgs, you’d soon realise you want to feel “energised,” “confident,” “sexy,” or all of the above. The trick is to pick a word or words that really resonate and ignite a fire in your belly.
So you’ve picked your guiding words…now what?
Say “wonder”, “daring” and “sexy” are your three guiding words for the year, the next step is working out how to feel or channel more of that…
i.e. What would make you experience a sense of wonder?
Perhaps adding some spiritual texts to your reading list, travelling through India, or completing an online course in coding.
How could you be more daring in life?
Maybe asking a stranger out once a month, moving interstate, or start a salsa dancing classes?
You get to decide; the meaning that word holds for you is entirely personal.
Pick words that both challenge you and move you closer to the person you want to be.
And when truly practiced, everyday you step out in the world, you are a living embodiment of those words, letting them guide your decisions and behaviour at every turn.
You’ll naturally be faced with choices and questions that can be answered so much easier with your chosen words in mind.
When you look at that lifeless bag of potato chips, you can ask yourself, will this make me feel “sexy”? No? What would?
If someone invites you to a party out of the blue – and one of your words is “spontaneous”, all of a sudden it’s clear, it’s time to slip into some hawt heels and go.
If you’re word is “growth” and you’re battling whether to take that business course that you know will help you in your career, you can finally grant yourself permission to say “YASSSS“!
It’s incredible how one little word can stir so much emotion and effortlessly lead us on the right path.
It’s not an excuse to throw money around or act in a foolish or impractical manner. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. All of a sudden you are more thoughtful of your presence, more considered in your daily choices, and ultimately living life at a heightened level of intensity and mindfulness.
And that’s when real #LifeGoals are made.
Now go carpe that diem.
Have you set any guiding words for the year?
Please share in the comments – I need some inspo!